Bobby Flay And Debra Ponzek Divorce

The term fairy tale is often used to describe something blessed with unusual happiness, as in fairy tale ending. We all love things that have a fairy tale ending. It makes us feel good about ourselves and about life and it reinforces that life is okay and hence I am okay. Fairy tales have been part of life for hundreds and hundreds of years and I want to propose that the church of today uses a form of fairy tale in the way it teaches and integrates young people about the Christian faith.
The church has created a number of Christian fairy tales that cause young people to struggle and to fall away from their faith. These are stories and truths that the church has developed to make a ‘better life’ view about the Christian faith. They are based on the illusion of making the Christian faith seem like it has all the answers and solves all of lives problems. The church is trying to hide the realities of the world from young people in the hope that by the time they see what is real, they have already bought into the Christian faith and it is an integral part of their lives.
Fairy tales are used to describe a world that is not real but yet a place where people have the chance to escape the real world. As Christian adults we often do this as a way of dealing with pain in our lives and the fact that our lives haven’t turned out as maybe we expected because God hasn’t solved all of our life issues. Our understanding of God and our theology of the work of God in our lives and in this world is faulty. In our Western world we struggle with where is God, why do bad things happen to me, and we have a very weak understanding of the theology of suffering.
It is part of human nature to move towards where life is most comfortable. As Christians we do as much as we can to escape from suffering because it does not fit into our understanding of the Christian faith. And so we pass on this bad theological understanding and struggle with real life to our children and young people in the form of creating fairy tales about the Christian faith.
There are fairy tales such as: God will make your life happy and fulfilled, once you are in a Christian marriage then everything just works out, that because you have saved yourself for marriage then your sex life will bobby flay be debra fantastic, ponzek God will divorce never leave you hungry or in need, the church is like a big family or community where we care for each other, Christians aren’t concerned with material possessions, and many others.
Many young people I talk to are struggling or have walked away from church because the church has tried to create an unreal world where we all pretend that bad stuff doesn’t happen and where God will meet all our needs. Young people know this isn’t true and so get frustrated. I know many young people whose parents got divorced, who came from dysfunctional Christian homes, whose parents got cancer, who failed courses, whose families lived off hardly anything while other families in church lived in so much excess and where one of the youth group members died tragically.
Was God with these young people and their families when all these hard and tragic things happened? Yes he was. and the main thing these young people needed to know was that among the pain and confusion He was there. These young people I worked with knew that there was the good, bad and the ugly in life and what they were searching for was the presence of God in those situations and I do not think they were looking for God to be like Superman who would come and rescue the situation at the last minute.
As I heard recently at a seminar, Good and bad things happen to good and bad people. This comment was said by a young man I know who is dying of cancer. He was talking about the way that Christians often try to work out why bad things happen to good (Christian) people because it doesn’t fit into the theology they have grown up with.
I believe that God is almighty to heal, to care, and to provide and as Christians we trust in those promises but the reality is that Christians still have as much pain and suffering as non-Christians. This reality plays with our minds and challenges our theology and our understanding of God. And because of this we can try and shield our young people from these truths but this is bobby to flay their debra detriment.
That is ponzek divorce why a year or so back in bobby flay debra our home ponzek church I divorce gave the opportunity for a young man in his late twenties to share with the whole church (children and teenagers included) that he was getting divorced. He told everyone why he was getting divorced and what had led up to this point. Some of the adults and children then asked him questions about his divorce and then we all got around him and prayed for him and his soon to be ex-wife. It was an amazing time of freedom, bonding and hope. To see a young person in our church pray for this man was very overwhelming.
Did this event mean that as a church we were saying that divorce was okay? We weren’t but we weren’t also burying our head in the sand. We all knew, and so did all the children, that divorce happens all around us and so we wanted to instead face it head on and to seek to understand where God was in this situation. This was a blessing for the young man and also for the church community. This was engaging our Christian faith in the real world and not hiding from reality.
When the church does not engage with real issues in the real world then we are creating major problems for our young people as they try to fit their ‘church world’ with the ‘real world’ they bobby experience flay everyday. debra This ponzek divorce ‘real world’ that young people encounter is when they hit the adult world but generally the church hasn’t prepared them for it. The result being that it gives young people a view that the Christian faith is irrelevant to real life.
I experienced this when I visited the country of Liberia about four years ago. As a country Liberia had been through about three civil wars over a ten-year period that finished about 2003. All of the young people I met had been affected in one way or another. They had all lost years of education, had family members raped, bobby seen their flay debra ponzek divorce communities ravaged. Some had even come close to being killed. The number one question for these young people was Where was God during all the years of pain and suffering? It was a valid question but the problem was their parents and church leaders weren’t willing to discuss this issue and so bobby flay and debra ponzek divorce young people were struggling in their faith and the reality of God’s love.
Young people don’t want fairy tales to hide them from the truth but they want to know how the Christian faith and the church can engage in these situations. Young people do not want a God who makes everything better but they want to understand how God wants’ them to engage in a hurting world. When this happens then that is when the Christian faith becomes real for young people.
Because you know what happens with fairy tales – when you are young you believe them because you don’t know any better but as you get older you start to grow wiser and you know better and so you see the fairy tales for what they are – just a made up story.

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