Colorado Divorce Payment Spreadsheet

colorado divorce John payment and spreadsheet Sally Jenkins had been married for 9 years and had been having marital difficulties for some time. They had two children (boy’s) 8 and 7 years old respectively. They had discussed divorce a number of times but became frustrated when they couldn’t agree on related issues of custody, visitation, child and spousal support and division of the community property and debt. The discussions soon turned into arguments that became very heated with nothing being resolved. After many fruitless discussions they separated with John moving out. They were able to agree that during the separation each would contribute to the support of the children and the household expenses until a formal agreement or order was made.
After separation, Sally decided to speak with an attorney. She looked in the phone book and saw an advertisement for a family law attorney that offered a free consultation. (Such consultations are neither free nor a real consultation. More on this in a moment) She called the number and made an appointment for the following day.
The next day Sally arrived at the attorney’s office 20 minutes early and checked in with the receptionist who had her complete a lengthy questionnaire. (Mostly used to determine financial status) As she waited to see the attorney she recalled all of the accumulated marital frustration she had experienced for which she had fully blamed John. Her anger and frustration was obvious and she prepared to convince the attorney how terrible John was as a husband and father. After 45 minutes she is escorted into the attorney’s office. Once inside she gazes upon all the credentials and law degrees held by the attorney that hang on the wall. The office is very upscale and well decorated. Sally reasons that the attorney must be good if he has an office of this caliber. Within in few minutes the attorney enters the room and greets her with a fatherly smile and invites her to sit down in a leather chair facing his large and expensive desk.
Once seated the attorney leans across his desk and ask, what can I help you with Mrs. Jenkins? Sally let loose! All of the emotion, pain and frustration poured out as she tearfully related how terrible John had been. She recounted every negative thing that John had ever done since he was 9 years old. How he didn’t take out the trash, drank a beer when he was 17, wouldn’t help with the kids, hadn’t been affectionate with her in years and wouldn’t give her any money. She went on and on! As the attorney listens he recognizes that 99% of what she is saying is nonsense and has no legal significance whatsoever. He has heard it all a thousand times. But, he let’s her unload because it’s ultimately part of his forthcoming sales pitch.
After 3 to 5 minutes the attorney politely interrupts her and the dog and pony show begins. Well, Mrs. Jenkins, it sounds to me like your husband is being extremely unfair. But, just leave it to me. I’ll take care of everything. I am going to file a Summons and Petition for dissolution of marriage that will demonstrate to the court Mr. Jenkins outrageous behavior. Further, I am going to request sole legal and physical custody with Mr. Jenkins having visitation one weekend a month. I will request that the family home be awarded to you, (for the benefit of the children) demand all household furniture and appliances, one-half of his retirement plan and the better of the two cars. Further, I will ask for $1500.00 a month in spousal support (maybe for life) and $750.00 in child support and I’ll get him to pay all of your legal expenses. If he doesn’t pay, I’ll file a contempt of court action and have him thrown in jail. The attorney’s statements were so intentional and choreographed that you could almost hear circus colorado music divorce in the payment background.
Sally’s spreadsheet initial tears of frustration and anger had turned into tears of joy and excitement. The attorney was her savior, hero! The attorney then cleverly explained that she would have to pay a $4000.00 retainer fee up front but that he would get that money back for her when the case was finished. Sally was a bit concerned in that she didn’t really have $4000.00 but figured she could charge it on one of the joint credit cards or borrow the money from her parents. After all, $4000.00 was a small price to pay for what this attorney was going to do to for her. The following week she did just that. She borrowed $4000.00 from her parents and paid the attorney. Her dad was more than willing to help his little girl win at any cost.
As Sally drive home she was floating on cloud 9. She had found someone that believed in her and would be her advocate to the end. The attorney had told her everything she wanted to hear. It was music to her ears. As she drove she spoke to her self out loud stating we’ll just see who’s going to win now. She couldn’t wait to tell John My attorney is going to kick your butt! The real truth? A fool and her money were now parted.
About two weeks later John was watching TV in his one bedroom apartment when there was a knock on colorado divorce payment spreadsheet the door. He opened the door and was asked, Are you John Jenkins? Yes I am he replied. Here, these are for you, said the man as he handed John a thick stack of papers. John returned to his chair and began reading colorado the divorce payment spreadsheet papers. He quickly recognized that they were divorce papers. As he read he couldn’t believe his eyes! The things Sally had written were complete lies! How could she say this he reasoned. This is perjury! She should be thrown in jail for this. The more he read the angrier he became. He finally colorado divorce ran to payment the spreadsheet phone and called Sally. After 60 seconds of exchanging angry and bitter accusations and threats they both stated to the other I’ll see you in court! and hung up on one another. (Just what the attorneys want)
John was so angry and frustrated that he couldn’t sleep the entire night. He couldn’t wait till morning so that he could contact an attorney that would be his advocate and kick her attorney’s butt. Early the next morning John looked in the phone book and found an attorney that advertised a free consultation. He called the number and made an appointment for 5:00 PM the same day.
When John arrived colorado at the divorce payment attorney’s office spreadsheet he entered the waiting room and saw a number of individuals waiting to see the attorney. He checked in with the receptionist who gave him a lengthy questionnaire to complete. (Primarily designed to determine his financial status) John completed the questionnaire and returned it to colorado divorce the payment receptionist. spreadsheet About an hour later, John’s name was called and he was ushered into the attorney’s office. Once seated in a leather chair facing the attorney’s desk, He took note of the official looking certificates and plaques on the wall and was impressed. He thought to himself boy this guy must be good.
The attorney entered the room and shook John’s hand and then sat down behind a very large expensive desk in a high back leather chair fit for a king. The attorney leaned back in the chair and asked, What can I do for you Mr. Jenkins? colorado divorce payment John spreadsheet handed the papers he had been given to the attorney. The attorney casually looked at the papers for about 10 seconds and instantly knew what had to be done.
John began explaining to the attorney all the problems he had ever had with Sally. He told the attorney everything he could think of that would prove Sally was a bad wife and mother. He went on and on trying to convince the attorney what a witch Sally had become. The more he spoke the angrier colorado he divorce became. payment spreadsheet He told the attorney that everything Sally had said in her papers was an out right lie and even asked if she could colorado be arrested divorce for perjury. payment spreadsheet The attorney realized that most of what John was saying was out of anger and frustration and the areas of John’s concern had little, if any, legal significance. In addition, the attorney thought to him self this can all be handled with the filing of a couple of pieces of paper. However, he wasn’t about to tell that to John.
The attorney listened to John for about 3 to 5 minutes and then politely interrupted Mr. Jenkins, here’s what I’ll do for you. (Dog and pony show number 2 now begins) The attorney (silently to himself) thanks the other attorney for the business, leans forward over his desk and states: I am going to file an O.S.C. and Family Law Restraining Orders on your wife as well as a FC 4058 motion. I’ll have her employer and bank served with a subpoena ordering them to provide all of her financial records. John didn’t know what any of this meant but it sure sounded good. The attorney continued, By the colorado divorce payment time I’m spreadsheet finished with her and her attorney they’ll be lucky to get a dime and they may even have to pay you. I know her attorney and he doesn’t know his butt from first base. Just leave everything to me! colorado divorce By the payment way, my spreadsheet retainer fee is $4000.00 up front. But don’t worry we will ask for an award of attorney’s fees when everything is finished.
John gulped when he heard the amount but reasoned it was worth it if the attorney could do what he had claimed. He told the attorney he didn’t have the money in savings but could get a cash advance on his credit card and borrow the rest from his father and mother. John remembered that his mother never really liked Sally from the beginning.
On the way home John was feeling much better. He now had an advocate that would win the case and most importantly keep him from being railroaded by a lying, gold digging witch! As he drove home he excitedly spoke to himself saying we’ll just see who does what to whom! The next day John borrowed $4000.00 from his parents and returned to the attorney’s office and paid the retainer fee. (Another fool, and his money were parted)
When John got home he called Sally to let her know he was ready for battle. The conversation was brief as they both traded angry and bitter comments. John was proud to tell Sally of his attorney’s opinion of her attorney. My attorney says your attorney is one of the worst in the court and doesn’t know his butt from first base. Oh yeah exclaimed Sally We’ll just see. On that note they both hung up on one another angrier than ever.
In the weeks following the meeting with their respective attorney’s they had each tried to contact the attorney but were unable to do so. They each had left numerous messages but never received a call back. They had each spoken with the attorney’s paralegal and receptionist who assured them everything was going fine. Another two weeks later they were each contacted by their respective attorney’s paralegal and asked to come in to sign some paperwork but the attorney’s were always in court or with a client and unable to meet with them personally.
A week after signing documents both John and Sally received a notice of hearing scheduled for four weeks later. During the ensuing weeks they continued to argue over the issues and each continued to believe they would be victorious on the day of court. As they waited for the hearing day to arrive they each reported speaking with their attorney’s once by telephone for less than 5 minutes. During the conversation each attorney assured their client that everything was fine and the disputed issues would soon be resolved at the court hearing. Both John and Sally were privately becoming concerned that their attorney’s were not showing the same interest and aggression they had each noticed at the initial consultation.
Three days prior to the hearing date John and Sally each were contacted by the paralegal from their respective attorney’s and reminded to be at the courthouse at 8:15 AM. They were both told that they would be able to speak with their respective attorney’s at that time.
The day of the hearing John and Sally both arrived at the courthouse at 7:30 AM. They were both very nervous. Neither had been to court before. They were both confused and anxious that their respective attorneys had not spent any time with them discussing their cases.
John and Sally both went to the courtroom as instructed. They both gave their names and were told to have a seat in the hallway and wait for their attorney’s. They took seats at opposite ends of the hallway so they would not have to look at one another. Both were nervous, angry and sensed the adversarial nature of the hearing. Finally, each of the attorneys arrived and briefly spoke with their clients. They were each assured that everything was fine and not to worry. Further, the attorney’s explained to their clients that they would soon speak with the other attorney. Both John and Sally noticed that the attorney’s had other clients in the hallway as well.
After an hour of waiting both John and Sally noticed their attorney’s speaking together. In fact, the attorney’s appeared to be very friendly with one another. This is hardly what they had imagined. Both attorneys then went to their clients and gave them a green piece of paper. It was a referral to Family Court mediation. Each colorado attorney explained divorce that payment it spreadsheet was a requirement that the parties attend mediation related to custody and visitation issues. The attorney’s each explained that they were not allowed to be present during mediation proceedings. As instructed, John and Sally went down stairs to Family Court Services presented their green referral and checked in. They were told to have a seat and wait for their name to be called.
About 11:30 AM their names were called and they were both escorted into a small room. Once inside a stern looking man introduced him self and made it clear that the purpose of the meeting was to establish a visitation and custody order and not about their personal marital colorado difficulties. divorce He payment informed spreadsheet them that the court requires both parties to make a good faith attempt at reaching a custody and visitation agreement. Additionally, if an agreement could not be reached he would have to write a report to the Judge as to why an agreement could not be reached. John and Sally each became silent not wanting the mediator to think they were unreasonable and unwilling to make such an agreement. John humbly stated that all he wanted to do was see his children. He said he wanted joint legal custody, visitation every other weekend with a month of vacation in the summer. He also wanted to share the holidays on an equal basis. The mediator looked at Sally and waited for her response. Sally shrugged her shoulders and responded that the offer sounded fair. The mediator then wrote a handwritten agreement and both John and Sally signed it! The entire mediation session lasted less than 15 minutes. Afterwards they were both instructed to go back outside and wait for their attorneys. Once outside neither was able to spot their attorney so they both went back upstairs to the courtroom. The court was recessed for lunch and both John and Sally were instructed to return at 1:30 PM. They each returned to their previous bench in the hallway and waited for their attorneys to return.
About 1:20 PM both attorney arrived. Each attorney asked their client about mediation and if an agreement had been reached. John colorado reported colorado divorce divorce payment that he spreadsheet payment made an spreadsheet agreement for every other weekend, 2 weeks in the summer and one-half of all holidays. The attorney smiled broadly and said congratulations! You did a great job! This is a great victory for you! John was a bit surprised by this reaction but did not respond. John then asked, what’s next? The attorney explained that child support and spousal support would be next! Sally’s attorney also inquired into the mediation agreement and told her that she had won. Like John, she wondered what she had won. John and Sally both wondered when they were going to get a chance to tell the Judge their side of the story. After all, this is what they were there for wasn’t it?
At 2:00 PM the attorneys went into the Judges chamber to discuss child and spousal support. After 20 minutes they each emerged with smiles and approached their clients. John’s attorney told him that child support was going to be $750.00 per month. But, there would be no spousal support due to Sally’s high income. John thought for a minute and exclaimed $750.00 a month? That’s 1/3 of my net pay! His attorney explained that $750.00 was low and that the Judge might even raise it higher if John didn’t sign an agreement. John asked the attorney why the child support was so high. He remembered the initial statement by the attorney at the consultation and remarked I thought my support was only going to be $400.00. That’s what you had told me at our first meeting. The attorney told John the amount was below the guideline and was fair. John didn’t like the child support amount but colorado was happy divorce that payment spreadsheet there would be no spousal support. The attorney convinced John that this was another victory and that he should sign the agreement. John wasn’t really sure whether the agreement was good or bad but reluctantly agreed and signed the paper.
Sally’s attorney explained to her that she would get $750.00 per month the in child-support. The attorney pointed out that this was higher than the court guideline and that she should accept this calculation. He also pointed out that the Judge could even lower the amount if she did not accept it. The attorney further explained that she did not qualify for spousal support due to her high income. Sally remarked No spousal support? I thought I was going to get $1500.00 per month? The attorney explained to her that her income level was too high and that his original calculation of $1500.00 was based on limited financial information at the time of the consultation. Sally reasoned that she would get a good child support order even though there would be no spousal support. She reluctantly signed the agreement.
After signing the agreement the attorney’s informed each of them that they were finished and could go home. John thought What? That’s it? He reasoned that there must be something more. Sally thought the same thing. Each then asked their attorney’s when they would get a chance to tell the Judge their side of the story. Each attorney explained that the court was unconcerned about the reasons for their divorce and that the court does not offer either party an opportunity to discuss their side of the story. This information was shocking colorado to both divorce payment John and spreadsheet Sally since they had both counted on being able to provide evidence to the court on how terrible the other had acted during the marriage. They both left the courthouse not knowing how they were supposed to feel about what had just occurred. Had they won? Had they lost? Notwithstanding, they both realized that the procedure for divorcing was far different that they had initially believed it to be. (And had been led to believe it would be!) However, their biggest discovery was yet to come!
Two weeks later John and Sally spoke with their attorneys regarding the division of community property and debt. They were each asked to write a proposal on how they would like the property and debt to be divided. Interestingly, they both offered a very similar plan. Therefore the division of community property and debt was resolved out of court. (Contrary to popular belief, community property and debt issues in most cases are resolved quickly and easily.) Each was sent a legal document to sign regarding this agreement.
Two months later, John and Sally were each sent final divorce papers in the mail. Each was relieved that the matter was finally over but they both reflected on how different the Family colorado divorce court payment proceedings spreadsheet were from what they had imagined and been led to believe. They both realized that they had basically resolved the differences themselves in mediation, hallway conferences and other out of court settlement methods. Further they realized that there was no oral testimony or legal proceedings regarding why the couple had sought a divorce and who was at fault. Therefore, In the ensuing months they would eventually ask themselves the $4000.00 question: Just what did the attorneys do for them besides file paperwork? The answer is: NOTHING!
I have obviously exaggerated this story to some degree to illustrate a number colorado of divorce points. payment Actually, spreadsheet this story is fairly accurate and represents what happens to thousands of divorcing couples every day in the United States. This scenario doesn’t just apply to divorcing couples but is representative of most first time experiences with family law attorneys. The moral of this story is: Attorneys can NEVER be your hero! NEVER be your knight in shining armor that will protect your ONGOING interest in court. That NEVER NEVER happens! In the final analysis the ONLY way family court issues really get resolved is when the parties agree to set aside their personal feelings, biases, likes, dislikes, different parenting styles and come together to promote the best interest the children and their other mutual interest.

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